I have this question roaming in my head for some time already, and it is for my revert sisters in Islam, those who I know or am somehow in contact with, so mainly Czech girls, but feel free to add your own bit into the discussion even if you’re a born Saudi Muslim and have no idea who am I.
Many of you, no offense intended! (describing purely my personal feelings), are on some kind of righteous crusade to point out the bad stuff on The Others, and in favour of omnipresent “reminders“, many of you spread the feeling of self-voted haraam & halaal police, especially when it comes to social media, be it Twitter, Facebook, or common blogging under any platform, self-hosted or not (from which all are basically quite non-Islamic to the bits), and spread the feeling that once you’ve spoken Shahada you’re on the right path and can’t step off, no matter what will be put in your way, and the other sisters around you keep on stepping in bad stuff and you have to, because you care of their immortal souls, of course, you have to correct them, straighten them, lead them. And God forbids if they keep on going that way, than you’re probably going to link their post or blog and slander them and diss them, together with few others of the same thoughts, because, astaghfirullah , these people of other opinion surely aren’t Muslim (enough).
Now, I admire your dedication, sisters; and I am amazed how many people literally turned 180 degrees from their previous lives, leading a good life, set in stone by rules and musts and to-dos and some rights; but sisters, where did your spirituality and faith go in all that Islam you tend to preach? Faith has many faces, as many as its believers, and to quote one of my favourite things: The way I see it isn’t necessarily the way You see it. Hence thanks in advance for all your reminders, but please, keep them on minimum, and only in best thought – not to show you’re better or more knowledgeable, because that tends to make me just prove you wrong.
Plus, an (unasked for) reminder for you all, or even few just to put my point straight: Do not call others kuffar / kafir, unless you want to speak of yourself in that manner first.
An-Nisa, 94: “O ye who believe! When ye go abroad in the cause of Allah, investigate carefully, and say not to any one who offers you a salutation: “Thou art none of a believer!”
“O’ creature of Allah, do not be quick in exposition anyone’s sin for he may be forgiven for it, and do not feel yourself safe even for a small sin because you may be punished for it.” (Imam Ali, a.s.)
“Tolerance is a shelter against poverty.” (Imam Ali, a.s., Sermon of Wasila)
An-Nisa, 124: ” If any do deeds of righteousness,- be they male or female – and have faith, they will enter Heaven, and not the least injustice will be done to them.”
“The best form of devotion to the service of Allah is not to make a show of it.”
(Imam Ali, a.s.)”
Al-Tawba, 10: “But, if they repent, establish regular prayers, and practise regular charity,- they are your brethren in Faith. “
Al-Baqara, 85: “Then is it only a part of the Book that ye believe in, and do ye reject the rest? but what is the reward for those among you who behave like this but disgrace in this life?- and on the Day of Judgment they shall be consigned to the most grievous penalty. For Allah is not unmindful of what ye do. “
First of all I want to let you know that this entry, nor the question, aren’t meant in a bad way. I’m purely curious. By above paragraphs I do not intend to harm or offend anyone, I am only describing, how I sometimes feel in the particular community. I try to avoid judging other people and consider myself as a fairly tolerant, liberal Muslim, open-minded even, and I have no problem reading and studying other streams of thoughts, be it Sunni, Sufi, Christian, Buddhist, Taosit, whatever – it’s good to know things, or as my husband would say, it is good to know thy enemy.
Imam Ali (a) said: “A person setting forth for the acquisition of knowledge is like the one who struggles in the way of God.” (Al-Majlisi, Bihar al‑Anwar, vol. 1, p. 179)
My question, however, aims at your feelings, the true ones, the ones you didn’t adapt by reverting/converting/embracing Islam, and it’s aiming particularly for your hearts as women – please, in you answer, if you chose to answer me, that is, be really sincere with yourself, be honest with me and God, nobody will judge you here. Well, I won’t for sure, can’t speak for The Others, naturally.
My question for all you sister Muslimas (Mormons can join too!) sounds:
“Are you accepting (happily) the fact that your husband can and will marry a second wife? Third and fourth?”
Please, people, answer at your best mind. Do not lie to me, as I have my own opinion already and if you lie it won’t do any good to your own soul and won’t change anything when it comes to me, and do not answer with “My husband won’t ever marry a second wife, because…” – I’m not interested in that; I’m interested in your honest answer on quite a theoretical question (or in few cases a very real one), IF your husband decides to marry other woman, and you will be forced to share your feelings, your kitchen, your time, your life, your bed, your beloved husband with her – or them.
Thank you in advance for helping me with this “research” of a kind.
An-Nisa, 3: “If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice.”
An-Nisa, 129: “Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women, even if it is your ardent desire: But turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air). If ye come to a friendly understanding, and practise self-restraint, Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful. “
Honor Your Wives